Baby in the Background
Random thought - I've been looking all around town for a calendar with some black people on it to no avail. That's annoying. The hoops you have to jump through to get some people that look like you on a calendar. I cant imagine how that is for Hispanic or Asian people, probably even harder to find. Then again I live in a small town, so I'm sure that would be easier elsewhere or easier if it was January and not August, but still.
A friend of mine was soooo funny last night. She was visiting another one of our friends who had a baby recently and has decided that kids were just not for her. She just couldn't deal with a baby screaming in her ear more often then not. She couldn't take it. After I finished cracking up I was thinking about motherhood and the sacrifice of self that is involved pretty much for the rest of your life. I once had a conversation with another one of my friends about parenthood and how not everyone is cut out for parenthood and rather then be a bad parent some people should just not have any kids (or just have pets). Or sometimes people have kids as accessories, and your career and whatever else you want to do with your life comes first and other people (teachers, day care people, friends and family) have more interaction in your child's life then you do. I don't really like little children and I always want to hang out with them for a short while then give them back to their parents. Its great being an aunt. And everytime I hang with my niece or nephew or am around people with kids, I am like, I don't want any kids and am sure glad I don't have any.
Anyway, like my friend I've decided that I am not ready (i.e. selfless) enough to want kids at the moment. I am sure that will change, but there is nothing that seems cool about having a baby right now, other then the idea of family. But for now I thank God for my singleness and the ability to only be responsible for myself. PRAISE!!!
A friend of mine was soooo funny last night. She was visiting another one of our friends who had a baby recently and has decided that kids were just not for her. She just couldn't deal with a baby screaming in her ear more often then not. She couldn't take it. After I finished cracking up I was thinking about motherhood and the sacrifice of self that is involved pretty much for the rest of your life. I once had a conversation with another one of my friends about parenthood and how not everyone is cut out for parenthood and rather then be a bad parent some people should just not have any kids (or just have pets). Or sometimes people have kids as accessories, and your career and whatever else you want to do with your life comes first and other people (teachers, day care people, friends and family) have more interaction in your child's life then you do. I don't really like little children and I always want to hang out with them for a short while then give them back to their parents. Its great being an aunt. And everytime I hang with my niece or nephew or am around people with kids, I am like, I don't want any kids and am sure glad I don't have any.
Anyway, like my friend I've decided that I am not ready (i.e. selfless) enough to want kids at the moment. I am sure that will change, but there is nothing that seems cool about having a baby right now, other then the idea of family. But for now I thank God for my singleness and the ability to only be responsible for myself. PRAISE!!!
posted by SPIRIT at 4:28 PM
4 Comments:
quick comment—christian subculture can tend to pressure us into things. big surprise. i don't have a desire for children right this second, although i, too, enjoy them. i think that's partly because of the lack of the other half of the genetics that makes them up. hopefully, it will be natural desire later (much later) in life if i marry and am crazy in love and can't wait to create life with someone else. God timing, baby, you said it.
so, being the vainglorious person that i am, i checked my blog for links from other blogs, and i found yours. o my goodness. i'm so flattered. truly.
but i don't recall being properly introduced. anyway, just so i can get this out of the way (haHa) my name is Jason, i reside at leftcheek.blogspot.com and http://www.xanga.com/jasdye and simultaneously in Humboldt Park in Chicago. i am a ... and am ... years old (ok, it's not a secret, but please, give an old man some dignity.)
and i'd love to have kids some day, even though the constant maintanence does scare me (not so much the responsibility. or even the crying. although there was a shrieker at target today...).
please don't be a stranger, spirit.
Jason, I am quite aquainted with your work. I started reading your blog because i read timi's blog who is a friend of my friend JoiDoe. Blog chains. Dont be a stranger either.
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